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Sometime’s difficult people bring out the worst in us. Watching others and judging, finding fault will not help us attain wisdom. Watching ourselves as we find fault in others is closer to the mark. Watching others and minding our own behavior, ignoring the actions of others in favor of correct actions ourselves - that is the key.

It is not proper to watch other people. This will not help your practice. If you are annoyed, watch the annoyance in your own mind. If others’ discipline is bad or they are not good monks, this is not for you to judge. You will not discover widsom watching others. Monks’ discipline is a tool to use for your own meditation. It is not a weapon to use to criticize or find fault. No one can do your practice for you, nor can you do practice for anyone else. Just be mindful of your own doings. This is the way to practice.

~ Ajahn Chah, "Bodhinyana"

from "365 Buddha: Daily Meditations,"